We’ve all been there; we’ve all gotten dumped. You’d think that after as
many times as I’ve been dumped that I’d be a bit more smart about it, but no
that’s not the case. I have played the fool over a man so many times that it is
a bit pathetic – if we had cards to certify ourselves as being woman worthy,
I’d probably have lost mine. Why you ask? Simply because I’ve done all the
stupid things that we shouldn’t do when trying to get over a man. Hopefully, I
can help you avoid the ways not to get over a man by describing my experiences
below.
How many of us after breaking up with a man, want to pick up the phone and call
him. Admit it, we’ve all felt that way. It’s a pretty natural way of feeling
too. Here is this man that we felt extremely close to, and who do we want to
call when we are in pain? Of course, the person closest to us. But, girl,
remember who put you in this pain. He did. So do you really think he is the
person you should be calling. Let’s face it, as much as we play it out in our
dream world to the contrary, a man is not going to come running back to you
because you call him in tears telling him how much you love him and that he
can’t possibly end the relationship. Calling the man after he dumped you is
going to get you nowhere, so don’t do it. Resist the urge, I know you can.
The next way not to get over your man is by looking him up on every internet
site you know. This is called cyber stalking. Sure your man may be on Facebook,
MySpace, or Yahoo Personals, but it is not your job to go check out his mood
and status every five seconds. Yes, it is very tempting. Just as it is as
tempting to create a fake dating profile on the dating site you see him on to
see if you can lure him into a relationship with your fake profile person just
to have contact with him. Yes, very tempting, but don’t do it. Cyber stalking
your man is no way to get over him. You need to remove him from your friend and
buddy lists and move on.
So, we’re not supposed to call him, we’re not supposed to stalk him, so let’s
go shopping. Wrong! Sure, it’s a lot of fun to go out and purchase everything
and anything after a break up. You think that buying that expensive suit or
purse will make you feel better, and you may be partially right. However, those
purchases are not going to mend your broken heart and a month from now when you
get your credit card bill, you’re not going to be happy. Shopping is just
masking the pain and not an effective way to get over being dumped.
So, we’ve taken the retail shopping off the list as a cure, what about the
pyromaniac tendencies. Once again, not a good way to get over someone. We’ve
all been so angry that we want to rip up, tear up, shred, throw out, or burn
every single item, picture, gift, or thing that man might have touched that is
in our lives. Instead of being that dramatic, simply box up the old pictures
and mementos, who knows they might come handy in the future, if say you get
back together with the guy, and if you don’t throw them away when you aren’t
filled with rage. In addition, that great Coach bag he bought you would look
horrible in the trash and though it may hurt to look at it right now, a few
months from now, it really won’t matter who gave it to you. So don’t go crazy
and burn away, be practical and realistic because being a pyromaniac is not
going to bring the guy back.
If you aren’t an angry pyromaniac, you are probably the delusional idiot that
thinks that if you create a shrine to the person that that will help you get
over them. I’m not sure about you, but if I walked into a potential new mates
house and found a shrine of their ex, that would be my one way ticket out the
door. Can we say psycho? You do not need to keep one of his shirts to sleep in
or his pictures on your wall. You are not longer together, put them away and
move on.
Break-ups and being dumped are hard, but we don’t need to make them any worse
by falling in to the traps of things that won’t help us to get over someone.
Learn from the past and this article and hopefully if there is another break up
or dumping in your future it won’t be as bad. Don’t worry, girl, your man is
out there so don’t waste your time not getting over Mr. Wrong.
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