It will change your life (at least the way you react to
situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what
happens to you. 90% of life is
decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of
what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be
late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in
traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is
different. You determine the other 90%.
How? ……….By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you;
YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter
knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over
what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize
her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal
battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you
find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready
for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the
car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles
an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away,
you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying
goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your
relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is “D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How
you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You
gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next
time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and
your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see
your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.
You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended
different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a
sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the
negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction
could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you
lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the
steering wheel fall off)
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try
and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let
the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your
worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for
the day. Why take outpour
frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over
what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why
get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be
amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle
is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress,
trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
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